Tallgrass is very excited to (re)build a healthy church culture together this summer. We're pumped to jump into our summer book study group on Emotionally Healthy Discipleship by Peter Scazzero.
In Emotionally Healthy Discipleship, we'll study together through how to create an emotionally healthy culture and multiply deeply-changed people in every aspect of church life—including leadership and team development, marriage and single ministry, small groups, preaching, worship, youth and children's ministry, administration, and outreach.
- Tuesday evenings 6:30-7:30pm starting May 18
- THIS WEEK we'll be at The Well (4th and Pierre). We'll put a movie on for the kids and meet together in the lobby.
- You’re invited!
- Get the book (Kindle edition is $14.99) and read along (read Chapter 1 for this time) or just come for the discussion and audit. The more the merrier!
- We're combining our men’s and women’s groups to prioritize this study together.
Here are the topics we'll cover together:
- Be Before You Do—Slows down our lives to cultivate a deep, personal relationship with Jesus amidst the hurry and distractions that routinely overload us.
- Follow the Crucified, Not the Americanized Jesus—Offers guidelines to determine how much the values and goals of Western culture have compromised, or even negated, the radical call of Jesus to deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow him.
- Embrace God’s Gift of Limits—Makes provision for surrendering to, rather than fighting against, the gift of God’s limits in our lives.
- Discover the Treasures Buried in Grief and Loss—Integrates sadness and loss into our following of Jesus. As a result, we no longer miss out on the treasures God has buried within them.
- Make Love the Measure of Maturity—Provides clear criteria to measure spiritual maturity by how we are growing in our ability to love others.
- Break the Power of the Past—Connects how our family of origin and personal history influence our discipleship in the present. We no longer treat deep patterns and traumas from the past with a quick fix.
- Lead Out of Weakness and Vulnerability—Embraces weakness and vulnerability as core to accessing God’s power and offering his love to the world.
Discussion Guidelines for the Group:
To get the most out of our time together, complete the reading assignment prior to our meeting. Also bring your book with you to each meeting if you have a book. You're also welcome to engage without reading the book.
CREATE SAFETY AND MAINTAIN CONFIDENTIALITY
Sharing is optional, not required. Devote your full attention to each person who speaks. Be sensitive, kind, and generous to one another with your comments. Honor one another by maintaining confidentiality. Anything shared within the group should not be repeated outside the group.
SPEAK FOR YOURSELF
Limit your sharing to your own experiences by using “I” statements. For example, “I feel angry when he does that,” rather than, “He makes me angry.” Making “I” statements is a way to take responsibility for thoughts and emotions rather than attributing them to someone else.
REFRAIN FROM DOMINATING DISCUSSIONS
Be brief in your sharing so that everyone has an opportunity to speak.
TURN TO WONDER
If you feel judgmental or defensive when someone else is sharing, turn those feelings to wonder instead. Ask yourself, I wonder what brought her to this belief. I wonder what he is feeling right now. I wonder what my reaction teaches me about myself.
Attentive listening includes silence. If that happens, refrain from rushing in with comments. Use any silence as an opportunity to continue listening—to what was just said, to your own heart, and to the Holy Spirit.
JUST SAY NO TO FIXING, SAVING, AND SETTING OTHER PEOPLE STRAIGHT
Respect each person’s journey and trust the Holy Spirit to prompt and lead each person differently and at a different pace. Focus on providing support and acceptance rather than instruction, accountability, or correction. This applies at all times—within the meeting and beyond the meeting.